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Many lawyers stick to the same old communication habits and never stop to ask why.
Why do I get defensive when challenged?
Why must I rush to a solution by trying to prove "Im right"?
Why do I need to use strong-arm tactics?
Because without clarity on what you stand for and against, you show up on autopilot.
This clarity preparation begins before you open your mouth.
It begins with understanding who you are and what matters to you, and ensuring that your communication reflects your values.
When your communication is values-aligned, everything changes:
- You listen to understand, not just react.
-You lead the room, without posturing
- You become the leader people trust, especially when it's hard.
I watched a mediation derail twice because of a barrister's values: "he never settles"—and he couldn't stop trying to be right.
He wouldn't listen. He missed hearing what mattered.
His ego cost everyone at the table—and it cost him more in court.
That's what happens when your values aren't clear: ego drives how you communicate, listen, respond and interact.
Want a better way? Start here:
👉 What's your goal for THIS conversation?
👉 Which of your values will guide how you reach it?
Because when your values drive your communication, you're not just reacting; you're being authentic.
âś… You're intentionally choosing your words, tone, and timing.
âś…You ask better questions.
âś…You pause, stop talking when it matters.
âś…You know when to push and when to let go.
That's not soft.
That's a proven strategy.
That's how you lead the conversations you love to "win".
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You don't need to "win every conversation" to lead better.
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