That Time When He Stopped Talking To Me

I will tell you a story you will want to hear.


I had a meeting with a successful law firm 'leader' recently.


He wanted to discuss my coaching, consulting, and mediation services for his emerging leaders and to support his business's future vision.


This was a reunion after seven years.


At the most recent meeting he called, he said, "Our business was held back by a year because we didn't listen to your advice then."


During our very upbeat, friendly and open meeting, he asked for my advice again and was full of promises to me.


He told me he was happy that we reconnected and that he reached out to me!


After our meeting, the communication temperature dropped overnight. 🤷🏼‍♀️


He evaded any meaningful discussion and was unwilling to take any action to discuss or commit to a plan to fulfil his freely given promises/words.


Although difficult conversations are challenging, facing them head-on is essential for personal and professional growth.


It got me thinking --- How many 'leaders' overpromise, underdeliver, or fail to follow through on their words/promises or have hard conversations, making life more complicated?


The Harsh Reality IS:

🚫 When you don't keep your word, your reputation will eventually cause clients (and employees) to pack their bags faster than you can say, "Trust me."

🚫 People will take your words with a pinch of salt or a whole saltshaker, and you won't be trusted, damaging your relationships and growth (personal and professional).

🚫 Leadership credibility goes out the window, leaving you with a title that means nothing. Why should others trust your words if you don't follow through?

🚫 Your team rolls their eyes faster than a roulette wheel whenever you speak. Your communication is untrustworthy and unmotivating, leading to diminished productivity, communication, morale, and profits.

🚫 Guilt and remorse will keep you awake at night, you will lack inner peace, and your confidence and self-esteem will take a ⬇️.

🚫 Innovation requires an environment of trust and consistency—no trust = stagnation.


And if there is one lesson to be learned from this story, it's the importance of keeping your word or promises, even when inconvenient (and having hard conversations).


Truth: You need more than dedication, technical skills, and hard work to succeed long-term.


Remember this tip: Keep your word. When you do, you are being true to yourself- willing to do the right thing, even when nobody is watching, especially when it's inconvenient or costs you. This is foundational to your well-being, happiness, and success.


If you've ever wondered about the perks of living your values and keeping your word, remember that it's not just good for your well-being; it's a game-changer in your leadership, relationships and business! 💪🚀