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I fell a few days ago.
Literally.

Walking down the food section on a cruise.
One misstep, then I tripped.
Then hands, knees, and dignity — all hit the floor.

One woman rushed over.
Most just stood back and watched.

One woman helped me up.
She said, "Love your glasses."
Another added, "Your hair still looks great."

I smiled - said thank you.
Feeling embarrassed from falling.
 
Those comments didn't help me feel better.
They helped them feel less awkward.

So many people forget this simple thing in law.

When someone makes a mistake or misses something.
Your words don't come out perfectly in a high-stakes room.
We rush to fill that awkwardness.

Sometimes we do it to help others.
Sometimes we do it to capitalise.

We say things like:
"We can't brief you again if you make a mistake (after it)."
"We'll debrief later, not the time or place right now."
"That could've gone better."
"It threw you off a bit, didn't it?"
"I'll handle it from here."

They sound calm.
Professional.
 
But every lawyer and barrister knows what they mean.

And in law, there's always an audience.
Colleagues. Clients. Opponents. Judges. Mediators

Everyone sees the fall — and quietly waits to see what you'll do next.

Most overcomplicate that moment.
❌They overanalyse every part of it.
❌Replay it in slow motion later.
❌Lose sleep over it.
❌Listen to the harsh internal critic as if it's a fact — set in stone.

It's not.
It's a choice how you recover.
And you don't have to stay "down.'

You need to recover — strategically.

Here's the 4-step system I use with great results:

✅Acknowledge what happened — take ownership promptly (before others point it out)
✅Keep it factual and tone calm - be clear and transparent - it builds trust.
✅ Don't over-explain or defend - frame it as a learning opportunity rather than a failure in character
✅Show what you're doing next - focus on the future.

That's how you protect credibility and re-establish influence fast.

Because in high-stakes rooms, recovery builds more credibility than 'perfection' ever will.

High performers fall, too.
They handle it differently.

They get back up — remain calm, confident, curious.
 Later, they learn what caused the "fall" and learn from it, to become even more skilled because of their "falls".

That's what high performance really looks like — not perfection, but mastery under pressure.

📩 P.S. If you're ready to excel at that level, even when things don't go to plan… I'm putting together a small case study group of lawyers and barristers where we're going to focus on consistently performing at your best in mediations, high-stakes rooms, and difficult conversations—without the usual legal performance pressure, worrying you got it wrong, or 2 am replays.

Would you ike to join us?
 
Email me at [email protected], put "I'm In" in the subject line, and I'll get you all the details!