Barristers and lawyers, if no one challenges you.
You may not be leading as well as you think.

Leadership in law isn't a title.
You don't get promoted into it.

You see it when the pressure is on.

An issue comes up in a meeting, conference, or mediation.

Someone starts to speak.
Then they stop. Or soften it. Or pull it back.
You move the discussion along.

Professional.
Efficient.
In control.

And something important never gets said.
A real problem doesn't get surfaced.
An assumption isn't tested.
A different perspective disappears.

Not because people don't have views.
They do.
But because they've learned how you react to challenge.

That's how disengagement creeps in.
Slowly.
Politely.

There's no shouting.
No overt bullying.

Just patterns that repeat:
- Responding too quickly without asking enough questions.
- Signalling you already know the answer or have the best ideas.
- Rewarding agreement and early consensus.
- Treating seniority as leadership.
- Moving past discomfort because it feels easier.

This often gets called competence.
It isn't.

It's control-driven by fear.

Courageous, high-performance leadership looks different.

It encourages dissent.
It makes room for difference.
It stays with the discomfort long enough for better ideas, solutions and thinking to emerge.

Because leadership at this level isn't about being liked.
It's about whether people feel safe enough to disagree.

When they do, judgment improves.
So do decisions.
And outcomes.

I write about leadership under pressure in legal practice.
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