VIDEO: "I Feel Like I'm Pretending... Like I Should Have All The Answers..."

You glance at your nameplate on the door of your sizeable office... as another notification lights up your phone. 

Partner. Barrister, KC, SC, Legal CEO. The title you chased for years.

Now you're alone in your office on another combative phone call, and after you hang up, you wonder: "This job gives me status and external success, but I feel numb inside. Is this what I sacrificed everything for?"

Outside, everyone thinks I'm confident, but inside... I'm terrified I'll be found out as "incompetent'

You excel at developing legal arguments and running cases. 

But leadership? You want to be respected and trusted, but you're not sure you trust yourself.

Most lawyers never learn to become high-performing, trusted leaders, leading themselves and others to sustainable, long-term success.

They follow a clear path to a leadership role and then cobble together leadership like a messy bowl of spaghetti, throwing outdated methods together, following more senior lawyers ahead of them, without proven systems in place, hoping something eventually sticks and works (besides that red sauce staining their expensive suits).

Consider it: You wouldn't serve your clients a random plate of tangled, gluggy spaghetti and call it a legal strategy. ("Judge, my trial preparation consisted of throwing random case theories at my office wall. The ones that stuck made it into today's submissions. The court's indulgence is appreciated.") 

And yet you're willing to do exactly that with leadership.

So why lead that way?

Try this: Before opening emails first thing next week, ask yourself: "What's ONE conversation I'm avoiding today that, if I had the courage and vulnerability to make a mistake and learn from it, would establish me as the trusted leader with my clients and teams - the leader they truly need?

Then make it a non-negotiable priority every day this week to have ONE conversation that makes you uncomfortable (action is how you build your courage and confidence).

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